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The crisis

July 21, 2009 by Tellie  
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It’s Blog-Swapping time!

20-something Bloggers (20SB) is the place for bloggers who are 20-something years old (duh) to discover and get discovered. I’ve been part of this network for a couple months now, and I love it!  The latest activity is a blogswap in which you swap a blog post with a blog partner chosen at random. So I signed up, and unfortunately for you but fortunately for me I didn’t get a weird creepy person! YAY!! Instead I got Kez, all the way from Australia who hosts a blog over at So I was thinking… Where you can see my entry for today. Kez had the brilliant idea of talking about her quarterlife crisis. I quickly stole decided to run with the idea as well. Here is her post:

I guess all this bloggy swap stuff comes from the fact that every person participating is a 20 something (except for you – creepy old guy – yeah I’m onto you). See what I did there? I gambled on the fact that there might be at least one creepy old guy participating in a 20SB activity so that creepy old guy will read this and feel bad because he’ll think I can tell who he is…

My darling husband just read that first paragraph and shook his head at me and said “That doesn’t make a whole lot of sense” but he smiled at me affectionately so I guess I’ll just leave it that way…

Anyway…

Today I would like to harp on about my quarter life crisis, because hey – it’s cheaper than therapy! Also, I figure that maybe just maybe, some of the readers of Tellie’s amazing blog that she has so kindly lent me, might kind of know what I’m talking about.

To me, my quarter life crisis is about feeling too old for some stuff and too young for other stuff. It has me in a perpetual mind spin. Who the hell am I? Am I still who I thought I was a few years ago? Have I changed overnight into some kind of old person?
What if I don’t want to be that old person yet?! But what if I also like my dignity?

All of these nonsensical ponderings came upon me as I turned 25 this year. I used to hear 20 somethings go on about a quarter life crisis (well it’s not so much a “crisis” as a “reassessment” or a “confusion” – “crisis” sounds just a tad melodramatic). I didn’t really understand what they were on about. Maybe it’s just some crap that the Y generation thought up to entertain themselves when their ipods stop working – seriously how often do those things freeze up until you have to plug them back into itunes and resync them?!
Oh but now I totally get it. It’s like I was hit over the head by it.

Whack! Take that, Quarter Life Contentment!

So…these days I feel too old to get wasted in a night club, falling all over the dancefloor but not caring because I have had 3 whole premixed Smirnoff Black vodkas (OK so I’m kind of light weight). I feel too old to be throwing up a whole evening’s food in front of people on a sidewalk because I ambitiously tried for the fourth Smirnoff Black…
But I feel too young to be planning each evening out in miniscule detail, because whether or not I will catch a chill if I don’t take a reasonably warm coat and how I am going to get home in a sensible manner is so important.

I feel too old (and too fat but that’s a whole other “crisis”) to be wearing flourescent colours made out of super tight, super stretchy fabric at house parties where the parents are supervising! Yet I feel too young to be dressed neck to knee in stifling outfits that quite frankly often include colours such as beige or black and make me look so uptight and boring, but supposedly “professional and sophisticated”!

I feel too old to know how to use an iphone or an Apple Mac. Yet I feel too young to stop wasting my time reading blogs or buying songs on itunes when I should be studying!

I guess I could go on forever with examples of my Quarter Life Confusion (some that would be far too TMI), but luckily for Tellie and all of you beautiful readers, I won’t. I guess when you think about it, it’s all about finding that happy medium in life. I’m hoping I find that sometime before my Mid Life Crisis kicks in…

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  • How can anyone be too old or too young for a Mac? Mac's aren't computers for children. In fact, most mac users are adults anyway. Like me, well, most the time I try to act like an adult. Mostly. Well sometimes. Only when it's sunny. In Seattle.
  • i am a lot older my body says so but my mind is not willing to accept and my heart agrees :)

    i-phone? hmmm, an definitely too old, all i know is how to call :(
  • LOL you make me feel old, Girl!!!
    Love the new header BTW.
  • I popped in from...shoot, can't remember who's blog I was on when I read that you're not a Harry Potter Fan. I figured I had to come say hi. I thought I was alone and should counseling for it. Soooooo many people go on and on and on.......like it's the only book ever written, or the only movie ever made. Kinda makes me crazy. So I felt a kindship and here I am.

    Scanning down I see a post about how you hate to shop..........holly cow, we might be cut from the same cloth. Again, thought I was the only women alive who didn't like to shop.

    Now you're group 20 something...yikes, my daughter is 20 something; but it's been a very long time since I was.

    Swing by for a visit, welcome mats always out
  • Have the same experience of feeling old for doing some stuff and feeling young for other things... it's like becoming a teenager again...
  • I know what you mean. My quarter life crisis is actually about feeling like i havent achieved enough in my life and not sure what I'm gonna do next. I feel like a failure in more than one ocassions. Annoying, I'm sure? I really hope it passes.

    ps. and there cant be an old guy participating in this. I, along with Courtney and Maxie, approved the 20sb members by ourselves ;). Since you gotta be in 20sb and pair up with a 20sb member to participate in this in the first place, right?

    pss. But I guess the old guy can pick his own old partner and use 20sb name. In that case, old guy should be smacked and not in a nice way haha :p
  • Kez
    Hehe It's ok - I trust your 20SB filtering skills - I was just in it for a cheap laugh. I know. I'm a bad person lol
  • lol. I used to be a member of 20 something bloggers with my previous blogs. I guess I should reconnect there. Unfortunately, all of my lovely followers have no idea who I am now.

    As far as the quarter life confusion, I know exactly what you mean. I am a little passed that in life (2 years :P), but still feel the after affects. lol.

    Even though I am doing all right, I still have the confusion. Then again, maybe that's just me in general. Always confused. :P haha.

    Great post, thanks for sharing and doing the swap. I like the idea. :)
  • Reading both your posts, geez it's great to be Gen Y! We have so many decisions to make and all of them are the right one! I love that.

    I feel so old that I look down my nose at the teenagers and wonder why they are wasting their brain cells and their time on things so young, yet I'm also painfully aware of how much I still want to learn about the world.
  • Lulz! I feel the same way about taking silly pictures and fighting with my siblings for chocolate. But then again, we don't stop playing coz we grow old... we grow old coz we stop playing, right? :^)
  • Kez
    Hey - thanks for posting my ridiculous post! This swap has been great fun. I am so lucky to have been paired with you!
    I really love your blog and I hope that my post kind of does it justice.
    x
  • LOL!! No problem really, i feel bad that mines so...short. This blog swap thing took place on the most hectic week for me. So I feel bad for not giving that post my all, but hey I tried.
  • KristinaP
    Great post! It's weird being 30 and working with teenagers. I need to be professional and an adult, yet cool and hip!
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